Monday, January 18, 2010

Is It Possible We're Doing Something Right?

Most days in the universe I wonder just how badly I am going to ruin my children's lives.  That's not intended as a joke.  I am ser.i.ous.  When I was pregnant and reading books about when my baby's fingernails were developing and why I should breastfeed, no one EVER said that every cross word and sideways glance would destroy them.  Shit.  I hate it when I do that.  And you have no idea how many sideways glances I can give in a week.  So you get the idea.  We should start saving for therapy now.  Great.

Their antics with each other intermittently freak me out and touch me at every level.  They are SO intense with each other.  Either intensely in love or intensely trying to scratch each other's eyes out.  Since I don't have siblings I rely on everyone else's reassurances that it's normal.  Ohkayifyousayso.

After all of The Princess' teasing of her vaccine shy sibling last week and his incessant ribbing of her for every single reason under the sun, I was beyond touched to see him help her with a project she's taking to school tomorrow.  It's a clear bucket intended to aid her class in counting and categorizing.  She could fill it with anything she wanted and her classmates have to guess how many there are.  Her brother loaned her 15 Hot Wheels.  That's sacrifice people.  He luuuuuvvvvvsss his cars.  And then there was the note:

15 cars in the jar, princess.  love, the athlete. p.s. have a good day

omigodomigodomigod - did I instill this in him?  I pray so. And then some. 

Yes, I know that he will hide the bucket from her before breakfast is over and she will punch him in the arm and scream bloody murder.  But for this moment, just for now, I am oh so proud.

15 comments:

Karen, author of "My Funny Dad, Harry" said...

I imagine that would be quite a thrill to see your child actually doing something nice for a sibling. Way to go, mom--yes, you must be doing something right! Hang in there and keep up the good work!

Visiting from SITS.

Christina Lee said...

haha so great--sounds normal to me! Oh and 15 hot wheels-- wowee! :)

Emmy said...

Yes, I always say my kids have a love-hate relationship. And well it really goes both ways and they both hold their own. So as long as there are times of love, you are doing it right :)

Tara said...

I seriously wonder if I am stunting Andrew's intellectual abilities b/c maybe I'm just not that great of a teacher, in my opinion. Looks like you are doing something right!

Divine Mrs D said...

That is so cute! I love it! I can tell you that when my sister and I were growing up, it was pretty intense with us too. Mainly in the wish to kill each other. We're much better now!!

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Desert Rose said...

I think you have to give yourself more credit and stress less about it. If you were any different then you would make the rest of us look bad..cause ya know we have the same kind of things going on here! I guess it is just a natural sibling thing..but it drives me crazy too. I do have a brother that is older than me, but we didn't grow up together..so this sibling rivalry and fighting wasn't something that I was used to either. But boy oh boy can my kids go at it!

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

As CJ gets ready to head to Afghanistan, he and Connor have been fighing MORE. Sad to see but I really think it's because they are already missing each other.

Hallie

Dabalack Family said...

Love these moments!!!

Andrea said...

It is so normal to have the siblings fight like cats and dogs. My siblings and I used to duke it out regularly, so I am not surprised when mine do it as well. Every now and then though, they will show the love, and that makes it a little easier to forget about how I wanted to strangle them a few minutes earlier for fighting! Right?

MiMi said...

Mouth hanging open...that is AWESOME!!

He & Me + 3 said...

I could have wrote this post too. I feel the same way. Bask in those proud mommy moments. Cherish them.

Monique-aka-Surferwife23 said...

awww, that is so sweet!

I have my own princess and athlete. Makes for a cute duo, doesn't it?

shortmama said...

Usually when we arent looking they are doing exactly what we have taught them...be proud mama

Maki said...

My girls fight and make up and they repeat it over and over, every single day! They love each other so deep, but they also hate each other's gut. LOL.... But they are best friends and I'm happy to be the part of them growing up...

xoxo

Tooj said...

I get more and more worried that I've already done damage with cross words and mean looks. I love my boys to infinity and want them to grow up healthy and happy.....am I doing it right? I can only hope. I'm happy to see that once in awhile, I might receive some validation like you did. What a sweet story.

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