Monday, August 15, 2011

Keeping up with the Joneses

Our family blog has been desperately neglected lately.  We've been working {too much}, traveling {a lot} and playing {hard}.  When I want to sit down and write I end up unloading the dishwasher or just collapsing in a heap in bed.  Besides being painfully busy lately the recurring theme of the adult conversations in our house is about whether or not we're headed in the right direction.  Not as a couple - thank goodness we finally figured that out - but as parents.

Are we really doing what's right for them?

Those conversations always bring up so much self doubt for me and insecurity about how good I really am.  The absolute truth of all of that is that I never feel worthy of the true goodness that has been bestowed upon me.  My deepest darkest secret is that I think everyone else just does it so much better.

Their homes are more beautiful.  Their thighs are a little slimmer.  They are more patient and loving with their children.

Even as I know this about myself, I struggle with my children wanting to be like someone else or be something that is less than their authentic self.  All I want for them is to be the very best of whatever God intended for them to be.

And Emily from Jones Design Company popped into my inbox at 7:29 AM and I devoured her words immediately. Funny how that happens sometimes.

Emily is someone that I think just has it all together.  Her home is so lovely.  And she's very pretty and writes beautifully.  She knows how to edit digital photos and sew ruffle pillows.  She would definitely never wear flip flops to the dentist and her life must be so much better than mine.  Or she may just be human like the rest of us.

Her post today spoke directly to my heart and gave me a little hope and inspiration that I am desperately needing right now.  You can read the whole post here, but if you don't make it any further you have to read this devotion that she shared with her children.

“Stop comparing yourself to other people. When you compare yourself to others, you end up either feeling that you’re better than they are, or feeling bad about yourself. Neither of those things is what I want for you.
I created each of My children with unique talents. And I have given each of you your own road to follow. So it is useless to compare yourself to someone else – that person has a completely different path to follow.

When you want to feel good about yourself, remember how much I love you. Remember that I made you just the way I want you to be. And remember that I died so you could have My salvation. You are a jewel in My crown.”

How lovely and true and inspirational.  He made us the way he wants us to be.


And Us.

And the Joneses.  Amen.


emily said...

So true. I am glad that the post spoke to you right when you were thinking the same thing ... I think the Lord knows how to orchestrate all of that :).

And, yes, I do wear flip flops to the dentist. When I actually go.

Emmy said...

Love love that! Great advice she gave, definitely going to remember that

Tooje said...

How hard to know where we stand as parents, isn't it??? I feel exactly as you do most days, and I don't even have to look across the street or on a blog. I have so many cousins that appear to have it going so great, bigger and better houses, money for vacations for their children, they appear to have more time to spend with them, go shopping for new and better clothes whenever they want. It's never ending.

But even when I look at them, I realize I've never been that person. To want what others have. There have been occasions when I think how cool it'd be to have my cousin's camera...or my other cousin's closet....but I'll be damned if I want their kids. :) I love them, but mine rock.

I just hope that one day, my kids say the same thing about their parents.

jules said...

Isn't it funny how things like that happen? I don't think it's coincidence....


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